My top 10 self-help book picks.
As a therapist and life coach, I read a lot of self-help books. Most have something to offer, but some are definitely better than others.
I am often asked for recommendations for the best self-help books for women, so today I am sharing my favorites with you.
I struggled to pick my top 10 self-help books because there are so many good ones out there. I’ve limited myself to the 10 best self-help books just for women–plus a few that are on my to-read list.
Best Self Help Books for Happiness
Most of us are looking to be inspired. These are the best self-help books to inspire you to live the life of your dreams and stop allowing limiting beliefs to get in your way.
1. You Are A Badass
Jen Sincero inspires us to stop listening to our limiting beliefs and live in our brilliance. She is funny and inspiring. She also gives you exercises to put her insights into practice. This is a great foundation in your journey to self-improvement.
2. Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance
Angela Duckworth shares her research on the importance of passion and perseverance. I bought the book after listening to her Ted talk and I’m glad I did. Watch it below.
3. The Book of Joy
This is the best self help book for happiness and joy even in situations when life is not as we planned. If anyone is an expert on being joyful while living in adversity, it is Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama. If they can thrive in joy in the midst of the trials they have faced, so can we.
I had a hard time choosing between The Book of Joy and The Book of Forgiving by Desmond Tutu and his daughter. The Book of Forgiving is probably best if you are struggling with forgiving someone. I settled on The Book of Joy because it has a broader application, but it was a hard choice. The book is a conversation between two great men, so listening to this one is even better than reading it.
Best Self-Improvement Books for Women
4. Live. Save. Spend. Repeat: the Life You Want with the Money You Have
This is an amazing book. I expected it to give me some motivation to upgrade my budgeting habits, but it is so much more than that. It gives you a roadmap to live the life YOU want to live, not someone else’s life.
Another surprise for me was how Kim Anderson ties using a budget to setting goals for strengthening your spiritual life. I was able to get all this inspiration with the audiobook during my regular walks, which also kept me motivated to walk.
Included with the audiobook are instructions on where to find some helpful worksheets.
5. The 12 Week Year
Kim Anderson introduced me to The 12 Week Year. This is a great business self help book. Following The 12 Week Year plan makes big goals more manageable and helps you prioritize what the next best step is in your business or life.
Best Self-Help Books for Relationships
Picking self-help books for relationships was probably the easiest category to narrow down my picks. When men and women are struggling in relationships, these are three of my most recommended books. Each book helps women in different stages of a relationship.
6. 5 Love Languages
This is the self-help relationship book if you are in a healthy relationship that needs just a little extra in the understanding each other category. Chapman helps you understand that people have different love languages and if you want to show your love to someone, it is most loving to speak their language. It also helps you understand that sometimes people are showing your love in their language, not understanding that you speak a different love language. This book is useful not only for your partner but to improve relationships with your kids, siblings, parents, and friends.
7. Getting Through to the Man You Love
This is one of the best self-help books for women who are married or have a long-term partner but struggling to communicate their wants and needs. If you have a history of not being able to communicate with a man you love this is the best relationship self help book for you. When you feel like your man just doesn’t listen or you find yourself nagging to get your point across, this is the book for you. This book tells you how to change your communication to get your message across without nagging. It will help your relationship even if your man has no interest in self-help books.
Relationship Book to Read in Your 20’s or When Getting Back in the Dating Game
8. Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man
This is one of the best self-help relationship books for women who are dating. Harvey gives great self-help advice for the dating woman and is so funny that it is entertaining while sometimes being convicting.
I wondered about some of his advice, so I checked it out with a couple of male friends and some of my male clients. They confirmed that what he says is true even though some of it they would rather women not know. Evidently, he broke the guy code by sharing some of their secrets.
Best Inspirational Books for Women
9. Discerning the Voice of God
Do you ever wish that God would leave you a note on your bathroom mirror telling you what to do? I do. It would make life so much easier. That’s why I chose this book. It will give you some much-needed guidance. Shirer is one of my favorite writers on faith. Everything by her that I have read has been fabulous. I chose Discerning the Voice of God because so often I have struggled with wanting to know what God’s will for my life is at this time and in this place.
10. The Circle Maker
Several years ago I read Mark’s book The Circle Maker. His story is inspiring to the point of sounding unbelievable. It is a great reminder that God answers prayers when we are willing to step out in faith. If you need some stories of inspiration and to reignite your faith this book is definitely the one you want. He gives you one manageable assignment a day for 40 days.
3 New Self-Help Books for Women
I haven’t read the next three books, but they are on my to-read list.
Year of Yes and Girl Wash Your Face have been recommended several times.
I just discovered Barking Up the Wrong Tree and am currently listening to it on Audible.
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Do you have a favorite from the list above or another self-help book for women that you recommend?
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Tanya @ Mom's Small Victories
I loved You are a Badass and Year of Yes (in fact, I’m giving away the Year of Yes in a planner and book,giveaway starting this week) I love to read to,imprive my life and it seems lately I’ve been reading more self help books than anything else. I’m reading Grace Not Perfection by Emily Ley right now. Thanks for the list, will have to add Kim Anderson’s books to my list.
empowerd single moms
I will add Grace Not Perfection to my list.
Keshav Sharma @ Selfhelpiness
Hi Tamara, great collection of books. It’s amazing to see that you have categorized these self help books in various sections. That’s really helpful for readers to select the relevant book. I think you can add one more book in the section of Self Help Books on Happiness. I have read this book called “The Happiness Project” and found it very helpful irrespective of the fact whether one is woman or man 🙂 Kudos for creating this amazing list!
empowerd single moms
Thanks for the suggestion of The Happiness Project.