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These are the 12 Books to Read When You are First Divorced
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Updated 2022—I wondered how am I ever going to get over this breakup. I didn’t realize I had just become a single mom. When I was first separated I was definitely in the denial stage of grieving my relationship. I couldn’t believe my marriage would end in a breakup. Divorce was something that happened to other moms not me. I could not imagine my life as a single mom.

Sometimes you need nonjudgmental guidance. Maybe even guidance that you can carry around in your purse or backpack.  I have been thinking about what book would have helped me when I was newly separated and the breakup was fresh. That was the hardest time before we had filed for divorce. In my case filing for divorce would be months down the road.

When I was separated I was overwhelmed and didn’t know where to turn. Truth be told getting up in the morning was overwhelming in the early days of my single mom life, but that did eventually get easier.

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Here are the top twelve books I recommend, when your breakup is fresh and you are starting your journey as a single mom. Click on any of the books below to go to learn more. about the book.

The First Book to Read When You Separate

Read these books when you are first divorced. You will find guidance on getting through grieving, helping your kids adjust, dating when you are ready. These books are fantastic resources.

First Book to Read After a Breakup or Divorce

How to Survive the Loss of a Love

The first time my life fell apart, this book discovered me. Devastated, I craved self-help books and stood browsing in that section of the bookstore. This book literally fell off the shelf at my feet. I took it as a sign and bought it.

This is one of the top ten books I recommend to my psychotherapy clients and I have read it many times. It is written in a combination of bullet points and short poems, which is perfect for times when you are too depressed to really read. Reading this book, you will feel assured that you are not the only person who has felt this way. It is not only good for the death of or divorce from a loved one, but also the other many losses in life. If you get only one book during the first few weeks after a divorce or if you are looking for a gift for a friend, this is the book.

Therapy is helpful support if you are feeling anxious or depressed after a breakup. BetterHelp is a good resource to find a therapist you can work with virtually from the comfort of your own home.

Here are 10 issues that challenge a single mom’s mental health and solutions to deal with them.

Books That Tell You How to Move On After a Breakup

Thriving A Single Mom’s Guide to a Happy, Positive Life

The guide you need to know what your next step is putting together your new life. Learn the skill that gives you the foundation you need for a happy, positive life. Get a step-by-step road map to build a successful life. ​Being overwhelmed will be a thing of the past.

 

 

Thriving a Single Mom Journal

A journal made just for you. This journal will help you remember or find your strengths. Then Dream a new dream and figure out the steps to get from where you are to where you want to be.

 

 

For more ideas on building your self-confidence check out these 14 books on building confidence.

A Practical Book to Read When You First Get Divorced

The Total Money Makeover

Going from two incomes to one is rarely easy, but Dave Ramsey gives baby step advice. He lays it all out for you, which is empowering. Ramsey also shares stories of people who have done the seemingly impossible when it comes to paying off debt. He has multiple other resources on his website, but this book is a great place to start getting control of your money. If you need more support, look for one of his Financial Peace University classes in your area. In my town, several local churches have hosted the class. Do not put your head in the sand; you need to take control of your finances.

 

Books to Inspire You

The Book of Joy

This is my current favorite book. I recently listened to the audio version while on a road trip and it infused me with peace. Desmond Tutu lived through apartheid in South Africa. Dalai Lama has lived most of his life in exile from his homeland and was taken from his family as a very young child. I can not imagine two people who are more qualified to give guidance about finding joy when life is not how you want it to be. I think everyone can benefit from the words of these two wise men. If you are struggling, this book’s spiritual wisdom and practical tips will encourage you to discover joy in the midst of it.

Everything Belongs

I discovered this book during another time my life was falling apart. I have read it many times and have recommended it many times to people going through hardships. My favorite concept from the book is that although some people grow spiritually through prayer and meditation, others need pain and suffering to grow spiritually. During my dark days, this idea helps me believe that the light at the end of the tunnel is not a train. I hope it gives others that comfort as well.

Related: Single Mom Inspiration: Yes Life Will Get Better

You Are a Badass

This is another one of my new favorites. Jen Sincero is inspiring and funny. The two previous inspirational books on my list are fantastic, but if you need some humor with your inspiration, this is the book you should to start with. As you may have guessed, it does contain a bit of swearing. You Are a Badass is not just for the newly divorced. It is for anyone who has self-limiting beliefs.

Sincero has written another book, You Are a Badass at Making Money. I haven’t read that one yet, but I bet it is fabulous. If you have read it, please let me know in the comments if it is as badass as I think it will be. Update: Great information and she is funny too.

Find more books on building your confidence here. They will inspire you to stop living your life to please other people and start living the life you are meant to live.

Books to Help the Kids Through Your Divorce or Break-up

If you want to know what your kids want you to know about getting divorced, you can eavesdrop here. Now for the books:

Mom’s House, Dad’s House

I read the first one when I got divorced. It helps you understand the importance of making both parents’ homes home for the kids. There are also practical tips for co-parenting. These are classics filled with practical advice. 

Dinosaurs Divorce

This book is also a classic. The author, Mar Brown is the author of the popular Arthur series I have it in my office and have read it with kids so many times that it is falling apart. It is a bit too childish for kids over eight or ten. I have, however, been able to use it with young teens (when it looked newer) by asking for their advice in using it with younger kids. The words and ideas are very straightforward, but the silly pictures make hard ideas easier to talk about.

 

What to Read Before You Start Dating

Conventional wisdom says to wait before starting to date after divorce. Often, you will think you are ready before you are. There are so many excuses and justifications. “It has really been over for a long time,” or variations thereof, are the most common. You may think the wait rule does not apply to you and that you are the exception. However, it is probably best to wait one or two years after the divorce is legally final. Yes, I know the process can go on so very long. You are probably out of practice dating, and the stakes are higher now that you have children. Do yourself a favor and evaluate if your man-picking skills could use some work. Read both of the following books before you start dating. You will be glad you did.

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

John Gray may seem old-fashioned but read this book anyway. Even if you do not agree with him, it is important to recognize that there are stages in a relationship. When you get ahead of the other person in the stages, you will be hurt, sad, disappointed, and angry. You can avoid a lot of hurt by recognizing the stages. This book will help you understand what stage the other person is in, and where you are so you do not get too far ahead of yourself.

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

Steve Harvey differs with Gray about when to include sex in a relationship. Harvey really confronts ladies on not assuming that what you are thinking is what the man is thinking. The humor in this book is delightful.

What would you add to this list? Do you have a favorite self-help book or a favorite story or genre that transports you briefly to another world? Let me know in the comments. Or, if you have read one of these books, tell me if you found it to be helpful.

I started a group just for you to get the support you need as a single mom. Join us in Empowered Single Mom Tribe. If you want more books checkout 29 Books to Read When Your World is Falling Apart and Your Heart is Breaking, some of the single moms in Empowered Single Mom Tribe share the book that helped them get back on their feet.

 

Read these books when you are first divorced. You will find guidance on getting through grieving, helping your kids adjust, dating when you are ready. These books are fantastic resources.

Hi, I’m Tamara the creator of Empowered Single Moms, a single mom, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LICSW) and the author of Thriving a Single Mom’s Guide to a Happy, Positive Life and Thriving a Single Mom Journal. I have a solo private psychotherapy practice where I treat anxiety, depression, and relationship issues.

As a member of the Empowered Single Moms community, I believe you can stop carrying the weight of the world alone and build a life you love. Join my mailing list and get 5 Keys to Single Mom Success.

 

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  1. Janice Wald

    June 24, 2017 at 5:47 pm

    Hi,
    I really could have used these books once upon a time. I don’t know why it didn’t occur to me to read self-help books, and no one suggested it.
    Janice

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    • parenting2homekids.com

      June 24, 2017 at 11:25 pm

      Janice, I hope others find them.

      Reply
  2. Carla

    June 26, 2017 at 12:42 pm

    This is brilliant. I have a number of friends – – !!!— Bring down the path of divorce. I’ve read many of these books. It never occurred to me to recommend them to them in this moment. Especially the You Are A Badass!!

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    • parenting2homekids.com

      June 27, 2017 at 3:07 am

      Carla, I glad you found it helpful. I think there are books for every mood.

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  3. Wendy

    June 26, 2017 at 1:40 pm

    Great list! I have a few friends who really need to read this. I’m sending them the link. Thanks

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    • parenting2homekids.com

      June 27, 2017 at 3:06 am

      Thanks, Wendy I am glad you found it helpful. I hope your friends do too.

      Reply
  4. Karen

    June 26, 2017 at 4:09 pm

    Sadly, I really need this list right now. Some great books on here! Thank you for posting!

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    • parenting2homekids.com

      June 27, 2017 at 3:05 am

      Karen, I hope they give you some needed information and comfort.

      Reply
  5. Haralee

    June 26, 2017 at 6:30 pm

    Great list! I really like how you broke them down into categories, well done.

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    • parenting2homekids.com

      June 27, 2017 at 3:04 am

      Thanks, Haralee. I appreciate you stopping by.

      Reply
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  7. Lisa thomson

    June 28, 2017 at 10:57 pm

    Great list! I read the Secret for some positive thinking. Also, lots of co-parenting books. I would advice people to join goodreads and search divorce books there, too.

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    • parenting2homekids.com

      July 1, 2017 at 12:35 pm

      Lisa, glad you liked it and thanks for the recommendation.

      Reply
  8. Ann

    July 1, 2017 at 1:49 am

    Broken Open by Elizabeth Lesser. Phenomenal. Thank you for your post.

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    • parenting2homekids.com

      July 1, 2017 at 12:32 pm

      Thanks for the tip Ann.

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